When ending any sort of relationship, it’s always very hard and very painful, particularly if you did not want that relationship to end, but it never compares to getting over your first love. Why is your first love the hardest relationship to get over? Not only is it challenging but you take those memories of your first love with you for the rest of your life. It doesn’t matter if you’re in a new relationship or it is 10 years later, for some reason the relationship you shared with your first love are the memories you share with your kids if they should ever ask, if daddy or mother was your first love. You can be extremely happy in a new relationship and run into an ex from your past and it isn’t a huge deal, but if you run into your first love, you get these butterflies in your stomach that you wish would just go away. It’s annoying that this person still has that effect on you. The ones that have moved on from their first love can agree that the feelings we had for our first love, we’ll never feel again for any other person.
They don’t call it your first love for nothing. You never hear about your second love or your third adore and it is because you can fall in love again but it will never be like your first love. What is so amazing about the feelings and emotions you feel for your first love is that it is the first time experiencing love, the very first time to just be head over heels about someone, the first time to really care about a person over you do yourself. Getting on your first love is one of the hardest things you will ever have to deal with. To say it’s an emotional rollercoaster just does not explain it enough. The pain and frustration you go through, the emotions that influence the way you eat and sleep and just function through out your day is truly overwhelming. What is worse is when you finally get over it and try to move forward, get into another relationship, you end up still searching to feel the same feelings in this new relationship and the fact of the matter is that love you felt for your first love is a feeling you’ll never ever feel again.
It is so tough to get over your first love since you do not actually”get over” it. You just move on. It’s a memory you will always have with you and that person will always hold a place in your heart that no one can ever replace, even if they broke your heart. You can’t help it. Sometimes you just want to forget about that individual and that connection, particularly if things got bad towards the end, but your heart and the experience won’t ever enable you to. You will always wonder how that individual is doing, whether or not she is happy in life, whether he or she is married or have any children. That person will cross your mind every now and then. It doesn’t matter if you are involved in a new relationship. People tend to think that if you are really happy, then your first love should never come to mind, but this is simply not true. You might hear a song that reminds you of your first love or you may see something on your new relationship that you did with your first love, or sometimes you just can not help but to compare that relationship to your new connection.
We never really get over our first loves. We just learn how to proceed. We learn how to pick up the pieces and adapt. Life goes on and we move forward. Do not concentrate so much on”I just need to get over this individual”. Life will help you proceed because nothing ever stays the same. Adopt the changes in your life that most of us face in life. Concentrate on the people in your life that will always be there and that bring you joy, like your family and close friends. Find a good support system and let them be there for you. You do not want to deal with this alone. You need to surround yourself with those who love you and that will support you. Another way that will help you get through it’s developing a journal and writing down your feelings in addition to your goals. It’s a way to release those inner feelings which you may not want to admit to anybody else. Listening to music is also another helpful tool. Of course you do not want to follow anything that is going to make you sad. Like love songs or songs that remind one of that connection. You want to listen to up beat music and audio that will make you happy, which will help motivate you to get up and get out the house.
Although you will never experience that kind of love you felt with your first love, the good thing is that you have something better to anticipate and that is when you find your real love. Just like there’s nothing like your first love, well there is nothing like your real love either. You can’t compare your first love to actual love. So when you are attempting to get over your first love, just keep in mind your real love is out there and when you find it, then it will be so much better.